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    do long distance relationships work?

    i have a friend that just so happens to b a girl we get on so well and have such a laff, we have been avoiding doin n e thing about our feelings as she lives 150miles away, the problem is we met up the other day and sort of confesed we had a thing 4 each other....


    ....so tell me do long distance relationships work, they say love concers all but i dunno if i should let my self get involved.

    *edit* please feel free to slap me for being a soppy git and posting this!

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    300 miles from my fiancÚ

    Yes its does work but can be trying at the best of times

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    lol - i knew some one would be worse off, so how oftern do u get to speack?

    i msn her every day and we talk on the fone most nites - after 7 months we still havent run out of things to say!

    how long have you been together?

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    We spoken to each other for errr - ow feck i thought the girl was meant to remember

    As just mates from dec 2002? not sure

    We showed interest in sep 2003 - got together in october 2003 - got engaged on new years eve

    Speak every day - email and pm all day - chat of an evening when i don't fall asleep and see each other at weekends when money allows

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    seems about like me then - so there is hope yet, i guess it has its advantages as u must apriciate (i must learn to spell) yr time a lot more.

    so u planning on movin together at some point?

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    U do appreciate your time together I also think it makes u appreciate the person more too and gives you experiences that u can learn from and that make u stronger if u can work through them

    You also need more trust and better communication

    We have a house in scotland and when a suitable job is available for ade we will be together until then just life as normal with our weekends

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    Go For it, Nassin. I don't Know what age you are, and I will sound really old, but when you look back on life, Don't ever be in the situation of 'I wish I'd asked her out'.

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    cheers guys u twisted my arm...not that it tok much we will b meetin up a week on sat to take things further and hopfully begin something good.

    i'm 21 and i guess this still gives me my space and i can still live a little...after all u dont need to sleep around to do that!

    i love this place

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    welll.....depends what you mean by "working"


    had a few of the buggers

    not so good when your horney as **** and your girlfriend is in cheltnum

    and visa versa

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    haha nice one deathstar - a realist!

    but still sure it will b explosive when it does happen!

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    In the long term you only ever regret the things you didn't do. Give it a go.

    The worst thing that'll happen is that it's too hard and doesn't work out. The friendship's changed anyway now - once you've agreed there's an attraction there you've gotta do something about it.

    Go for it fella.

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    deffo go for it

    but what i say does happen

    all the time infact

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    If you know and feel in your own mind that this girl is right for you then do it!!

    The distance is a complete pain in the arse, as Cath has already said, we are 350 miles apart, we chat in the day, PM and email each other all day and then chat at night.

    But truthfully thats never gonna be as good as it is when your together. The one thing I look forward to is the Friday night when I know I will be setting off to be with her for the whole weekend

    But those weeknights when you get home from work, and the house is lonely, cause your fiancee is 35o miles away, that is a real heart wrencher

    Good luck with it tho Nassin, hope it all works out
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    go for it fella.
    Love knows no distance heart the heart always feels for the person it wants.

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    i'm feelin a lot of love in this room right now...yeah yr all right i'm going for it and bloody happy 2

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    FEEEEEEEL the love !


    i need a hug

    leon?

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    IMO they don't work, most of them fail. If you end up in a long distance relationship and you want it to last, one of you has to move asap, it's as simple as that.

    If you don't mind moving or she doesn't mind moving then go for it, but if you're the type of person that doesn't like the thought of upping your roots and going elsewhere then forget about her - there's plenty of females that live locally, you just need to get out there and look

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    mixed responses

    i personally think if you are secure within yourself and they are secure - u have trust and u actually love each other - than it will work no matter what

    loss of any of these factors can mean a break down in the relathionship

    also outside influences can be a pain

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    loss of any of these factors can mean a break down in the relathionship
    in any relationship id say not just long distance

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