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Avinitlarge
21-01-2002, 19:36
I am now single, Joanne finished it last night http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif . My life is a piece of ****, I miss her and my kids, I have begged and pleaded but got absolutly nowhere. http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif
It isnt fair, I am a wreck, I have lost every thing that I ever loved http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif

[This message has been edited by Avinitlarge (edited 21-01-2002).]
andyf
21-01-2002, 19:55
Hey mate, try and keep a positive thought going in your head - I'm not in a terribly great situation at the moment, but if I just keep thinking the happy thoughts, there's hope! You're still young, lots of time left in life - whenever things seem bad, dont be downbeat and things can and will get better!

Just keep thinking of the Veilside kit on your S13 http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/biggrin.gif
Richy_Boy
21-01-2002, 20:08
Dont I just know it Avinit.. Bird broke up with me on Friday. She said things had got too deep too quick, and said she got scared and had to run. she's sent text opologising etc, and has chatted.

Stupid thing is she still fancies me.. lots, and I do her.. But due to X ****s.. they have ****ed her up a bit with dumping her on the spot after years etc.. not good.

Weird. http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif

Still, she might be coming to Santa Pod with me still http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/smile.gif

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Rich
Fed up with everyone having longer Sigs...
'91 Graphite Grey S13
Jap spec engine, T28, SAAB IC, Jez chip, ND DV,
ND adj. Actuator, Adj. Konis, 17" Alloys, ND springs,
Ecotek valve, K+N, Janspeed and 300zx calipers/discs, GRPA fuel pump, Greenstuff and NO LSD!! :(
Thinking 240bhp now..
Jezz_S13
21-01-2002, 20:41
Mate sorry to hear it.
You gotta look on the bright side, been in a similar situation a couple of times myself, and one of my mates is having almost exactly the same thing going on in his life at the minute.
What you got to see is that despite everything being sh!t shaped at the minute it'll work out. And at the end of the day you'll be happier, cos you'll have what you want and will have learnt from the past.

It may seem like a backward step at the minute, but in 6 months year whatever you'll be happier than you were before.

All the best,
Jezz.
Dodger
21-01-2002, 21:01
Tell you what though Avinit - none of this stuff gets better as you get older, while it's happening. But, speaking in my capacity as a divorced 43-year-old with two kids, whose last long termer went down the pan last year (took her four years and a proposal of marriage to decide that she didn't want a bloke with kids; gave me a "my feelings for you are the same BUT....." speech), I can tell you that the recovery ability appears to get better.
Avinit, I think you were telling us in the middle of last year that you were on shaky ground with Joanne. It sounds to me like no amount of pleading's going to help your case. Can I suggest the best thing to do is to lay off the pleading and let her make up her mind what she wants to do long-term? And you make the very best of it in the meantime - see the kids, but don't bug her. Then when you know for certain what she wants (ie you are convinced in your own mind that she means what she says), go with it, and if it's the worst then it's the worst. But don't hide in a dark room for months on end. Change your life somehow - do something diferent, divert your attention from the situation in hand and give yourself something new to concentrate on. And then look for a stroke of luck (and there are plenty but we often don't spot them when they whizz by). Mine was an unexpected phone call just before Xmas from a lady friend from donkeys years ago wanting my new address...........Carpe diem and all that.
In the meantime Avinit, comiserations mate.
But like Jez says....put it down to experience and learn for next time.
Kev
21-01-2002, 21:22
Know pretty much how u feel mate.

Been planning for the last 4 months or so to head down to coventry to be with my partner.

Gave up my job and everything.
Told all my family and friends.

Anyway, heads down to cov on tuesday for an interview and im thinking everything is starting to fall into place.
Planned to move down for the start of february (2weeks time).
Got the job by the way.

I came back from the interview and im telling her all about it and she just looks at me and says "its all happening too fast" and "im not ready to move in together"

Great!!!

Cant afford to just move down myself, and even if i did, i wouldnt know anyone.
So kinda been in a daze for the last week trying to figuer out what the feck im gonna do. Still dunno!!

Add to this the fact that the 200 has been off the road for bout 4 months and doesnt look to be going back on the road for quite some time, its all pretty ****ty.

Dont think this will make u feel better mate, just to let u know ur not the only one with a f*cked up life at the moment.

Kev
docwra
21-01-2002, 21:37
Jesus Christ - sorry lads http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif
Sounds like the curse of winter to me - everyone gets fed up just after Christmas - its the worst time of the year for it http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif
Just try and keep yer chin up - you know that theres good times round the corner - there always is http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/smile.gif
"A man must first learn the meaning of sorrow before he can appreciate happiness" - dunno who said that, but he was cleverer than me http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/wink.gif

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92 200SX, grey
K+N 57i (Im ready for max power now!!)
Jap spec engine fitted by yours truly
Nismo paddle clutch
Uprated cams
Bit of ICE, cant be arsed to take the dash off to put more in
Never refuse a challenge!!
gentlemen prefer blondes ......
Nathan_200sx
21-01-2002, 21:41
Cant add much to what has already been said apart from chin up mate and I hope everything turns out for the best.
Regs
Nat

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Nathan
Red S13 few bit's n bobs 330ish BHP
Dont get even -- Get odd!!!
Billy
22-01-2002, 00:22
Aw no mate, that's rough. And so soon after the baby. Might just be post-natal depression getting the better of Joanne.
Whatever, life's an adventure and you can be sure something will happen to change your lot sooner or later.
Be sad, but don't be depressed. You will see it differently in time.
cadburys man
22-01-2002, 00:41
Paul, sorry to hear that mate...you know where i live if i can help in any way...or just pop down for a visit, you know your more than welcome at ANY time.
Btw, been trying to ring you all night.
Give me a shout m8.

Daz.
J595HAS
22-01-2002, 00:58
Its early days yet, when my missus walked out on me and went to her mum's I thought ya beauty the SX is getting the attention it deserves; 17's, Veilside kit, t28, FMIC I had 6 months wages accounted for within an hour of her leaving. The bitch came back 2 days later and F**ked up my plans...then I felt the way you do now!. Life goes on and you will find happiness somewhere as you go along. http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/wink.gif
Kev
22-01-2002, 01:54
Lol @j959

nice one mate ;-)
J595HAS
22-01-2002, 02:47
Aye but since she came back, she diz whit a tell her tae dae and she eats her dinner aff the flare like Wee Mo. And she will no be f***in me in the back o the heed wae an iron !

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andyf
22-01-2002, 02:57
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Amdathlonuk
22-01-2002, 10:01
Originally posted by J595HAS:
Aye but since she came back, she diz whit a tell her tae dae and she eats her dinner aff the flare like Wee Mo. And she will no be f***in me in the back o the heed wae an iron !



ROTFLMFAO!!!

That had me in Fcuking stiches!!!

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Stage 1 chip,Mongoose,K+N 57i Induction,ND Actuator,Colder Plugs,Dump Valve,Dash mounted Boost gauge,H+R 35mm Drop springs,17" League Tantrums,EBC grooved front discs,Greenstuff pads, SAAB FMIC (not fitted yet)....
Pioneer FH P6600R
JohnD76
22-01-2002, 10:25
Mate,

Don't know what to say. It is hard enough when a girlfriend leaves you, let alone a wife and when kids are involved, well I can't even comprehend that since I don't have any.

Can't think of anything else to say, except sorry to hear it. Even though that sounds lame.
http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/frown.gif

Look forward to seeing you at a few 200 meets though I hope.

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John
Modded Damson S14a
Tomcat
22-01-2002, 16:50
Hi Avinitlarge, hi Richy_Boy

very sorry to hear that. I guess most of us know how that hurts and it's never easy to cope with that. And i won't try to cheer you up, 'cause i know it'll be almost impossible. My advice: Spend your time with something that distracts you from the pain, meet some good friends.

best wishes

Tomcat
Christian
22-01-2002, 17:52
Sorry to hear, m8
Same happened to me 1 1/2 Years ago. Think it is one of the worst things to happen.

Didn't you have problems with your wife some time ago?
I seem to remember something about too much Nissan too less wife or so??

Anyway, hope you're well soon.

Christian
Richy_Boy
23-01-2002, 00:10
Cheers TOmcat, but its Avinit who needs the sympathy. I'm a happy go luck guy, and a nipper @ 24.
I hate to think what it would be like to have serious problems when youve been withthem for years.. with kids etc.

Avinit, dont worry. Pick yaself up, and if you want her back, like someone said, change. Ive always found getting some new 'different' clothes to make her look at you in a different light.

Err thats all I can suggest. Had a good chat with my X today (after some ****ty emails) and have smoothed things out a little. Meeting up on thursday evening to talk more.

So chin up lad, one way or enough, it'll work out.

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Rich
Fed up with everyone having longer Sigs...
'91 Graphite Grey S13
Jap spec engine, T28, SAAB IC, Jez chip, ND DV,
ND adj. Actuator, Adj. Konis, 17" Alloys, ND springs,
Ecotek valve, K+N, Janspeed and 300zx calipers/discs, GRPA fuel pump, Greenstuff and NO LSD!! :(
Thinking 240bhp now..
docwra
24-01-2002, 11:38
Originally posted by J595HAS:
Aye but since she came back, she diz whit a tell her tae dae and she eats her dinner aff the flare like Wee Mo. And she will no be f***in me in the back o the heed wae an iron !



Pure comedy genius mate http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/biggrin.gif http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/biggrin.gif http://300zx.co.uk/200sx/ubb/biggrin.gif