View Full Version : After a bit of advice for my girlie divorcee mate
...There's a guy in the flat upstairs that she's quite interested in :)
He's been down a couple of times on a casual basis (he doesn't have a telly :wack: - came down to watch the footie ;) ) & has offered to cook her dinner etc :)
Trouble is, he's away on business A LOT (really, not just a made up story to avoid her!) - she'd like to progress this but not sure how... she's been out of the dating market awhiles and so have I. We need some hints and tips ... she'd like to get to know him better rather than just a one-night stand, & that's where the problem lies lol.
She doesn't know enough about him yet to know where his interests lie, so can't invite him out on anything....and giving her phone no is too forward imo...so what next?? :)
Ta for the help :)
PS she's blonde, mid-30's, knows the off-side rule & lives near Walton in Middlesex if anyone's interested :D :p
well, why not invite him out on something?
At the end of the day, if he isn't interested in her, he'll politely decline. If he is interested, he'll put up with whatever it is, in order to get to know her better.
Take up the offer of dinner - at the worst its free food, at the best its a great way to get to know someone. Its also "safe" as friends make each other dinner alll the time, so theres no definate on going thing neccessarily.
Well, that's what I think anyway...
No point asking me for dating advice - I'm better with engines and I know fcuk all about them :wack: :cry:
i would say take it slow, get to know each other first
imagine if they take it quick ;) nudge nudge wink wink then find out theyre completely incompatible and living next door to each other, not a totally comfy situation
nothing wrong with taking it slow these days, they should try a meal in, out, cinema, pub/club, telly, walks etc
well, why not invite him out on something?
At the end of the day, if he isn't interested in her, he'll politely decline. If he is interested, he'll put up with whatever it is, in order to get to know her better.
Take up the offer of dinner - at the worst its free food, at the best its a great way to get to know someone. Its also "safe" as friends make each other dinner alll the time, so theres no definate on going thing neccessarily.
Well, that's what I think anyway...
I find myself in the rather odd position of agreeing with Ponyboy here :nod:
I find myself in the rather odd position of agreeing with Ponyboy here :nod:
good god man - have they upped your prescription or given you a new set of slippers???
good god man - have they upped your prescription or given you a new set of slippers???
Sanatogen is a wonderful thing :wack:
Sanatogen, i thought it was the Prozac that was working the wondres :D
Hey im now free to take nice mid-30's ladies on dates, just dont let me near a BBQ eh Tac :D
nice and slow and that way you keep mates.. too rushed = bad news
just invite the bloke down again for some dinner etc...and just ask the girl to strike up a conversation...and like what others said, if he's interested he would want to get to know her more...it would be even better if the guy would talk to her first more, than to other ppl in the party:) which probably confirms his interests. use the oppurtunity to get to know the bloke as much as she can...end of night...if all goes well, ask for his number...almost anyone would be happy (lightheaded) towards the end of a nice warm party...so he would probably give his number...if you don't ask....you may never know what answer you would get...and you'd probably be thinking about it all the time...:)
(he doesn't have a telly :wack: - came down to watch the footie ;) )
Erm, watching sport with a female in the building is a nightmare. If he wasn't keen/horny, he'd have bought a telly by now.
D has asked me to turn this into a poll lol :)
She REALLY wants to know if he's interested, but he's obviously not inclined to make the first move...she has a very strong feeling that he's interested, but she doesn't want to make the first move in case it scares the sh*t outta him...it's either should she make the 1st move, or should she leave him him enough hints & wait to see what happens :) If the latter - have seen from previous threads that men like it spelt out, so how obvious does she get? :)
(LOL I can barely type & I'm having to put alll this in :indiff: Hope you appreciate what I'm going thru for my mate lol )
I'd be flattered - I'm shite at making first moves and wouldn't be at all horrified. :thumbs:
Disclaimer: As long as the girl making the move on me isn't a moose. :eek:
Maybe get here to have a fake DIY problem, or car prob, you could maybe Kibosh something around her house and he could come round and have a look, while he is there she can offer to make a cuppa for him!!
Something for starters?
Then maybe follow this up by having her shove some of her mail addressed to her into his letter box, the postman ****ed up trick,another chance for a meet!
have a summer party invite a few people including upstairs matey, bingo bango a good few hours to find out if he is a weirdo/boring etc.
if she approached me in a weird sort of way then its just not on...got to be natural...genuine....original...:)
He aint got a TV, that aint natural, he's gay and a veggie too i bet
Martin T
14-07-2004, 00:06
I'd proably sheet meself and run away. Whether I was interested or not. Unless I was drunk. In which case she'd lose all interest in me :rolleyes:
dexteruk
14-07-2004, 00:16
you said he's offered to cook her dinner
that sounds like he's defo interested - so tell her to ask if the offer is still there
shove some of her mail addressed to her into his letter box, the postman ****ed up trick,another chance for a meet!
Just don't get caught doing it, because that requires some very quick thinking/talking, apparently.
I'd proably sheet meself and run away. Whether I was interested or not. Unless I was drunk. In which case she'd lose all interest in me :rolleyes:
what have i told you
sort it out :D
i agree with dexter. hes already asked her to dinner.
take him up on the offer.
then post back in here to let us know how it goes :D then we can give advice to stage 2 lol
gaz.thomas
14-07-2004, 09:40
If she's a little uncertain then coffee would be a good opener. She can go mid-afternoon (so if it all goes horribly wrong there's scope for a plausible excuse to leave without offending - this is a damn sight more difficult at ten o'clock at night) plus if that turns into dinner, drinks and a night of keeping you awake with all the noise then :thumbs:
I think when it comes down to it you only ever *really* regret the things you didn't do - so whichever approach she tries (and as a bloke I'd prefer her to take the less devious ones...we already know women are sneaky-there's no need to prove it) she should just go out and have a good time.
Ohh and if she needs some practice tell her to give me a call ;)
Gaz
-x-
gaz.thomas
14-07-2004, 09:43
Oops...seems that despite all of the above incoherent ramblings I still failed to answer the question:
I love it when a lass has the confidence to approach me. Even if she does ming (naughty boy aitch :whip: ) it's still flattering and most guys will have the good grace to let her down gently.
Gaz
-x-
MattyGee
14-07-2004, 10:31
Ohh and if she needs some practice tell her to give me a call ;)
Gaz
-x-
Down Boy! :D ;) lol
mattpayne
14-07-2004, 10:59
tell her to slip something small and silky on, get her to head upstairs with some GOOD coffee and a bottle of nice vodka, and mention that her bed is away for repair and as she lets him share the telly... :D it would work for me... (depending on the brand of vodka ;))
mattpayne
14-07-2004, 11:05
I belive photos would help us make a more informed decision :D ;) :nod:
I belive photos would help us make a more informed decision :D ;) :nod:
I agree with this and shock horror with Gaz Thomas :eek: :rolleyes:
I love it when a girl approaches me - just doesnt EVER happen in Cambridge at all :(
When I go visiting mates in Brighton/London/Leeds/Anywhere else that isnt as stuck up as this fackin place I look forward to it - confident women are ace :thumbs:
And if he has offered to cook dinner, hes already up for it. Trust me :)
Jimmyboy
14-07-2004, 11:24
I'd be flattered - I'm shite at making first moves and wouldn't be at all horrified. :thumbs:
Disclaimer: As long as the girl making the move on me isn't a moose. :eek:
PMSL :notworthy
archenemy.co.uk
14-07-2004, 12:32
You forgot to include "Horney" or "Like I was going to get some tonight" :D
You'd be surprised what a nice smile can do
Tell her next time she sees him to say "I've decided I'll let you take me out for that meal, hows saturday :smile: and :raise eyebrowsonce sloooowwwwwly: if she can do it without looking like she has a tick.
Then if the meal goes well theres always the option for a night cap as they live in the same place.
well, why not invite him out on something?
At the end of the day, if he isn't interested in her, he'll politely decline. If he is interested, he'll put up with whatever it is, in order to get to know her better.
Take up the offer of dinner - at the worst its free food, at the best its a great way to get to know someone. Its also "safe" as friends make each other dinner alll the time, so theres no definate on going thing neccessarily.
:nod: :) :nod:
The Artist
14-07-2004, 13:13
Man asking women
"Hello...err...would you...like err....crikey....err maybe sometimes ...*cough* fancy coming out for a ....err....bite to eat....?"
Women replies
"Err...I will have to think about that, I am actually going out with my friends this week and the week after...infact all the time becasuse my friends are very important to me and I WILL not give them up....so dont even suggest it......ete...etc......"
Women Asking Man..
"Would you......."
Man Interupts...
"YEAH............"
2 Black Lines
14-07-2004, 13:26
Man asking women
"Hello...err...would you...like err....crikey....err maybe sometimes ...*cough* fancy coming out for a ....err....bite to eat....?"
Women replies
"Err...I will have to think about that, I am actually going out with my friends this week and the week after...infact all the time becasuse my friends are very important to me and I WILL not give them up....so dont even suggest it......ete...etc......"
Women Asking Man..
"Would you......."
Man Interupts...
"YEAH............"
Quite true, took me a we while to relise this.
Tell them/ her go with the flow see what happens, lifes too short BTW.
...There's a guy in the flat upstairs that she's quite interested in :)
He's been down a couple of times on a casual basis (he doesn't have a telly :wack: - came down to watch the footie ;) ) & has offered to cook her dinner etc :)
Trouble is, he's away on business A LOT (really, not just a made up story to avoid her!) - she'd like to progress this but not sure how... she's been out of the dating market awhiles and so have I. We need some hints and tips ... she'd like to get to know him better rather than just a one-night stand, & that's where the problem lies lol.
She doesn't know enough about him yet to know where his interests lie, so can't invite him out on anything....and giving her phone no is too forward imo...so what next?? :)
Ta for the help :)
PS she's blonde, mid-30's, knows the off-side rule & lives near Walton in Middlesex if anyone's interested :D :p
Photo????? :D :D
He aint got a TV, that aint natural, he's gay and a veggie too i bet
i'll be having his number then :D
Man asking women
"Hello...err...would you...like err....crikey....err maybe sometimes ...*cough* fancy coming out for a ....err....bite to eat....?"
Women replies
"Err...I will have to think about that, I am actually going out with my friends this week and the week after...infact all the time becasuse my friends are very important to me and I WILL not give them up....so dont even suggest it......ete...etc......"
Women Asking Man..
"Would you......."
Man Interupts...
"YEAH............"
Very funny :D :D :D
Hmm, I've threatened a few times to bring her along to one of the meets so I could introduce her to a few of the local chaps :D Might see if I can get a photo of her to post up here....dunno if she'd be up for that tho!!
It seems like there is a whole world of opinion out there!
If she wants to date him and he asked her to dinner, then he is probably wondering what he has done wrong?
If she wants to short term, then what is she waiting for?
The most important thing out of this thread is just be yourself, that is the sexiest thing out there and what he would find the most attractive in her, in the long run!
i'll be having his number then :D
:notworthy :D
Dave
hmmm, got a piccie in my mind now of them almost getting together, you dragging them to a meet and him running off with Leon now.
gaz.thomas
15-07-2004, 10:34
Down Boy! :D ;) lol
I meant if she needs any help rehearsing the coffee line - drag your mind out of the gutter Gee...:rolleyes:
Gaz
-x-
(polishing halo ;))
MattyGee
15-07-2004, 13:28
im sorry Gaz, i must have you all wrong mate ;) :D lol
im sorry Gaz, i must have you all wrong mate ;) :D lol
I'm glad it wasn't just me then - I didn't like to say anything... :D
The only girls i've been out with are the ones that have approached me!
-that would be 2 then :-)
a picture would be alot of help, but i'm sure if she ask's him out for a drink,
or round to watch the footie again he wouldn't decline
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